Love letters made easy

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Megan Smith


Several years ago I met a normal couple living in a normal house with two kids, a dog, jobs, bills, schedules and stress. But this couple was anything but normal. These two people were rather spectacular, in fact.

While at dinner one night, I learned something amazing and so abnormal about their relationship, leaving a lasting impression on this then-new bride. This couple, heading into their 10th year of marriage, gives love letters to one other every single week. I was captivated. I inquired further. These letters weren’t always lengthy, not always eloquent, nor entirely Shakespeare-eque. But each was written with thoughtfulness and intention on a regular basis. What I loved even more about that practice was that this 10-year ritual was initiated by her husband – he had started writing her every Monday morning long before she followed suit.

Now, men. Don’t go burn all of these magazines around town you can get your hands on in hopes that your partner won’t read this, tear out those first couple of paragraphs and tape them to your bathroom mirror. Ladies, I hope you aren’t feeling slighted. Don’t tear out those top paragraphs and tape them to the bathroom mirror. There are better tactics for both of you. Keep reading.

Written declarations of love have been on this Earth as long as humans have had stones and cave walls. Especially in the early days of a relationship, it’s typically in our nature to share feelings with the one that makes us swoon. But over time, sharing feelings tend to become less frequent and can actually become downright quite awkward for some couples. Time constraints and stress compound the issue and before you realize it, that flickering flame of adoration and romance has gone out.

There is something so timeless and sentimental about a soldier writing a loved one back home, isn’t there? They understand the importance and fragility of each day. They face life and death with each hour and they know the power of the words they express will remain forever. I vividly remember reading “The Bridges of Madison County” for the first time many years ago and feeling that lump rise in my throat as Robert James Waller described the box of letters hidden under the bed and discovered years later, written between two star-crossed lovers. Lately, it’s hard to make it through the day without hearing the words “Downton Abbey.” Matthew’s letters to Mary have made millions of hearts melt worldwide.

So how does one go about crafting the perfect love letter? My answer: Make time. Time is really the only essential element to sharing your thoughts with the one you love. Some are born with the gift of expression and an ability and desire to share deep feelings. Others are not. But whether the words are eloquent or elementary, quoted or original, funny or deep, it really doesn’t matter. In this case, it really is the thought that counts.

 

Need a Little More Guidance? The tips below should help:

Write about experiences you’ve shared together. Talk about a favorite memory or a lasting impression. Let them know how important that time was to you and how you look forward to creating memories together for a lifetime.


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